Give the gift of kindness this Christmas, says Bodyism founder James Duigan
What’s the best Christmas gift you can buy someone this year? How much should you spend? What will make someone feel truly special?
If you’re stressing about Christmas presents this year, it’s worth remembering that the best thing you can give is your presence.
This dawned on me recently when thinking about my father, Kevin. To me he was a super hero. I always tried to look and sound like him (note my T-shirt tucked into my jeans in the snap below; my son Leo still prefers his starry top to my old man sweater).
This February it will be four years since he passed away. Looking back, I remember when we had to figure out what to do with his belongings, we were surprised to find he really didn’t have any. He died with barely a material possession to his name, and yet, he was the happiest person I’ve ever known.
It made me realise that no thing will make you happy.
He wasn’t attached to stuff. His self worth wasn’t tied up in what kind of watch he had or whether his jeans were the right cut. It was tied up in the time he had with us, his family, his friends.
Obviously he was my hero but everyone loved my dad. He was a cool cat. He didn’t care what people thought about him. He cared about people. That’s why at his funeral people were spilling out of the door to pay their respects.
Now when I think of him I realise time is the greatest gift you can give. You can’t buy it back. You can’t negotiate it back. You can’t bully it back – believe me, I’ve tried.
The very best thing you can do is be present to it, in the moment, and share it with the people you love.
So, this Christmas, what can you give someone to make them feel special and loved and cared for? It’s not a cashmere scarf or a drone or any thing. It’s no thing. It’s a phone call. Or a FaceTime. It’s your time.
Remember, your time and presence is the greatest gift you possess. This year, give your time generously to your loved ones.
Give the gift of kindness this Christmas.
Ps. Forward this to someone you love. Or, better yet, give them a call and tell them you love them.